No one is perfect, and honestly perfection is so over-rated. Everyone makes a few (or many) mistakes- that is just life. As I sit here and reflect on what love letter I would write to my younger self, I think about all the time I wasted being way too hard on myself and some of the mistakes I made (Gulp). My mistakes mostly consisted of me trying to grow up too fast, doing things my way instead of God’s way, living for others, and letting my people pleasing ways lead the way I would live my life. Oh man, do I wish I knew then what I know now. I know everything happens for a reason, and that I am not in control. I know to accept the doors that God closes as these are the necessary plot twists in your life.
Mistakes are like God’s built in teachable moments that allow you to grow up and hopefully learn something that will bring you closer to living your best life. If I could go back in time and leave a love letter to my younger self, this is what I would tell her:
First and foremost, you are loved- all of you, don’t ever forget that. Put God first in all that you do and let him direct your steps. Obey your parents at all times…they really do know what is best. Spend as much time as you can with them for life goes by so quickly.
When you start to figure out who you are, remember you are allowed to make mistakes during this journey and you do not have to be perfect at all times. Try not to be so hard on yourself and please stop comparing yourself to others…you are enough! Love on yourself and learn to love to take care of yourself first. God only gives you one body, you have to take care of it and love it just the way he made you. Keep this in mind, especially when you get to high school and people’s opinions and judgments are doing the most. Stop worrying so much about what other people think of you-it’s not worth it. Your uniqueness will be your ticket to success one day-believe it!
Don’t worry about how many friends you have, because the smaller your circle the better-and more genuine. You have a great personality and will make many friends, but know the difference between a true friend, a seasonal friend, and an associate friend.
When you go off to college and out into the world, enjoy these days. Life really does fly by and these will be some of your best times in your life, so don’t try to rush them or grow up too fast. Dream Big and take risks and Be Brave- for you never know where it could take you! And always trust your instincts, you have the best intuition, trust that ability that God gave you. Also, be careful with how you spend your time and what you allow, for it is so easy to be taken advantage of and everyone does not have your best interest at heart.
When it is time, let true love find you. When you finally meet your true soul mate, settle down, and start a family it may not be perfect-but God’s timing is. Have lots of patience and don’t sweat the small stuff-remember what your Mom told you- she really was and is always right. I know you will be a supermom and a great wife-but remember not to be so hard on yourself, you can’t control it all. As you grow older, learn how to save more and live with less, for true happiness is not found in materialistic things, it is found in the time shared and memories made with your family and friends. Last but not least, always live your life to the fullest, for you can never go and get that day back. You are destined for greatness- now believe it!
Your older self
What notes would you leave for your younger self? This is a great activity I encourage all to take the time to do. I would love to hear from you about any advice or lessons you have learned along the way, leave me a comment below.